Thursday, June 12, 2014

Motivating yourself vs Patronizing yourself

We have all been there, not wanting to go work out, practice, go on a run, or whatever, but feeling like you HAVE to. There is zero motivation except for your little fitness conscious telling you to "be good"and "just do it" as Nike likes to say. You are tired and you simply have not passion, no motivation, and energy. Do you do it anyways? I have seen so many work out motivations as of late and they caused me to consider these moments of internal struggle. Where is the line between patronizing yourself and motivating yourself and how do you separate them?
Here are a few examples of what I am talking about :
I'm not gonna lie; they are all blazingly truthful rhetoric with the aim of getting you off the couch. But they are also an undeniable guilt trip. I think the point I am getting at is that some days it is ok not push yourself when you're not motivated, because honestly you are not gonna have that fire in your eyes every single damn day and that should be ok. It is called self-compassion and being kind to ourselves. We live in a world where we put too much pressure on ourselves and that is why we end up quitting or getting burned out because we pushed ourselves when there was no passion too many times. It is all about the intention behind what we are going. I know so many times that I have gone down into the dance studio to practice and my intention was to get a million calorie burning workout, but I ended up having a sucky session and feeling worse off than I would have if I had just gone with the mindset to go do something I love and not about "pushing myself." That is term that I think our culture needs a tune up on. It has come to means something of forcing yourself to keep going even when you do not have it in you and it connotative of perseverance and being strong willed. But I don;t always think "pushing ourselves" is the answer. I think we need to mentally redefine this term as "knowing your capable of more and seeing to it that you achieve that." The difference in semantics is that sometimes we are not always capable of more and that should be ok, and we should be willing to show ourselves grace because the results will be better in the long run. 
Often times I get this uncontrollable urge to dance and I will go barricade myself in my studio and have this amazing practice session where it is just me and music and I am infused with passion for what I am doing and I end up lying on the floor drenched in sweat and exhilarated. I was not working out. I was living. This is so much different from those times where I feel like I need to work out and I force myself to go dance and it is not the same. In fact I feel regressive in my artistry at those times. 
I should also note that this mentality of self-compassion needs to be supplemented with hard work and determination. You are not going to get anywhere if all you do is mollycoddle yourself and make excuses. It is about finding a balance or when to show yourself love and mercy and when to hold yourself to the higher standard that you know you are capable of and that will be more rewarding. Often times it is just getting dressed and heading to the gym that is the hardest part and if you can do that you have already conquered yourself mentally and all that's left is physical. 
Essentially, find passion in what you do, if there is no passion, there are no results. Simple as that. 

Monday, June 9, 2014

Diet of a poor college student

I like the finer things in life, I really do. That means I refused to eat ramen noodles and synthetic sugars and chemicals three meals a day as most college students do. I also do not believe that you have to be wealthy to eat healthy, anyone who disagrees with me I will gladly hold their hand and accompany them to the grocery store. Therefore I decided to post some of go-to meals that I cook during the week and how much they cost:
1. teriyaki chicken
buy yourself a bottle of soy sauce, some high fructose corn syrup-free ketchup, honey, brown sugar, and garlic salt and this will last you a year's worth of delish chicken for about $10
mix all this up to the consistency you desire then let chicken marinate for a little as long as you want. Bake at 400 for 20 min with the last 5 on broil to brown the top. boom hello delish. I highly recommend doing this with wings or drumsticks which will run you about 1.50$ per pound so they are stupidly affordable and each package is good for at least 2 meals! Serve with veggies of choice!
2. honey, soy and garlic chicken
chop up some of that 70 cent garlic and toss it in a fry pan with olive oil (just buy it, it will save your arteries in the long run) and as soon as they begin to brown toss defrosted chicken breasts or cutlets in the pan. Drizzle with honey and a couple table spoons of soy sauce. Cover with a lid and let it steam cook all the way through until brown and crispy on outside.Serve with veggies! Bon appetite !
3. Bbq pork loin
this will run you about 7$ for a package of pre marinated pork loin at Trader Joes, but is delish and will get you a few days worth of left overs! Seriously just follow the cooking directions ( so day my cat could do it) and top with bbq sauce ( free of high fructose corn syrup of course!) oh yeah and this is really good with apple sauce on the side
4. Split Pea soup
Go to the grocery store. Find dried peas. Buy dried green split peas. Follow cooking directions. Add chicken bouillon to boiling water. Add carrots, onion and ham while cooking. You have just prepared a meal worth half your daily serving of fiber, all of you servings of veggies and half of your daily serving of protein. You're welcome. Oh and it barely cost you 4$.
5. Chicken Stew
Boil some water, add some chicken bouillon, onions, celery, soy sauce and garlic salt to taste. Add raw chicken as it begins a rolling boil and then cover. Add chopped carrots and potatoes and whatever else tickles the fancy. Let it cook about 20 min still boiling. Then pour a little broth into a bowl and mix with equal parts corn starch. Add the mixture back to the pot and watch the broth thicken to stew. Can I get a yum?
This is basically what I lived off of this year and it was pretty delicious and nutritious if I do say so myself. I will probs add more later too!

I wrote an essay!

Remember how I had that one angry rant about ideal beauty standards and Pinterest? Well I basically wrote the scholarly version for my rhetoric class and I don't mean to toot my own horn but I thought it was pretty good. Go ahead and have a gander if you would like :

Rhetoric as Instrumental and Constitutive

It is no secret that the media uses rhetoric as an instrument in persuasive marketing. Yet upon closer examination the persuasive tactics that influence the viewer to buy the product also construct physical and mental realities apart from the consumption of the product itself.  The Victoria’s Secret “Incredible Bra” commercial illustrates rhetoric as being constitutive as well as instrumental in that it is not only used to create the incentive to buy the product through ethos and pathos, but also produces the reality of women’s desire to look a certain way through the augmentation of emotions as a result of pathos.
The Victoria’s Secret “Incredible Bra” commercial currently airs across mainstream television advertising their newest “Incredible” bra. The commercial features a montage of impossibly thin, leggy, and well-endowed young females all dressed in subtly sexy lingerie gazing wistfully at the camera, posing, running their hands through their flawless beachy waves, and feeling their sculpted abdomens. The commercial uses very few words, simply “The bra you love, now even more incredible” printed across the screen, and no dialogue whatsoever behind an upbeat, sultry pop song. The thirty-second commercial ends simply with the recognizable Victoria’s Secret insignia printed across the bottom of the screen. 
The commercial relies heavily upon brand loyalty and familiarity to assume that viewers will recognize the salient as well as reputable Victoria’s Secret brand and thus continue to consume their new products. The commercial assumes that the female viewers already own and love Victoria’s Secret’s other products, and because they do they will purchase this new product. However, the commercial is not solely targeted at females, it also catches the attention of male viewers who are drawn to the beautiful models and may want to purchase the product for their significant other. The advertisement does not need to saturate itself with logos and insignias due to prior successful branding which has already infused the Victoria’s Secret name with meaning; meaning that is associated with sexiness, dependability, and quality. This is otherwise known as ethos, or established credibility. Ethos is formally described as “the character of the rhetor performed in the rhetorical act and known by the audience because of prior interaction”( Palczewski, Ice and Fritch 7). Victoria’s Secret implements this definition perfectly into their advertising by reminding the audience of positive past experiences with their products and the bra they “already love”. Consequently this affirms the viewer’s trust in the company so they can be persuaded to buy the new product.  Ultimately The Victoria’s Secret name is a reputable brand with a developed customer base in which their advertisements need only play off their already established success.
This specific commercial, however, is successful in its own right, not simply due to brand repute, but also due to definitive use of pathos. Pathos is defined by Aristotle as, “ that which leads the audience to feel emotion”(Palzewski, Ice, and Fritch 12).  The Victoria’s Secret commercial is successfully able to employ a pathos argument by setting the tone as sexy and sultry so that the viewer is able to associate the product with sex appeal and thus desire the product so that they too can be sexy. Or in the case of the male consumer, he wants his significant other to be sexy like the models. Essentially, Victoria’s Secret is not just selling a bra; they are marketing a lifestyle. The commercial is telling the audience through imagery that whoever purchases their product can ooze sex appeal just like the models. The consumption of the product is no longer about buying a good quality bra, it is about the emotions associated with buying the bra. Purchasing the product directly correlates with a sense of beauty and self worth. The purchase of the bra therefore becomes inextricably linked with the hopes, dreams, ambitions and ideals of the female consumer. Or in the case of the male consumer the purchase is linked with the fulfillment of his fantasies about women. For the female the purchase may represent her desire to be beautiful or to turn men on, or it may be linked to her weight loss goals to look like the models, or it may represent an alter ego of her’s. Either way the commercial is no longer just selling a product, but an answer to some woman’s intimate desires about who she wants to be. Essentially, pathos becomes the central persuasive tactic in this commercial as images of gorgeous women become linked to core desires and emotions of the consumer and are thus manifested in purchasing the product in order to fulfill those desires.
However, apart from the rhetoric being persuasive, it is also constitutive of unattainable beauty standards for women through the augmentation of women’s desires for personal attractiveness and thus perpetuating feelings of dissatisfaction with their own looks. James Boyd White defines constitutive rhetoric as the, “art of constituting character, community, and culture in language”(Palczewski, Ice, and Fritch 7). White’s definition aligns seamlessly with this rhetorical situation in that out of this media comes a culture of feminine dissatisfaction where after viewing the commercial a woman might feel that her body is inadequate. Contributor for Psychology Today, Romeo Vitelli PhD, argues that, “The effect of media content on ideas of physical beauty appears remarkably robust with women reporting greater feelings of inadequacy regardless of their real body weight”(Vitelli). Thus, rhetoric has the power to construct normative statements in which viewers develop ideas about how the world ought to be and sets standards in accordance, regardless of whether these standards are healthy or even realistic. Women look at the images on screen of rail-thin models portraying what women “should look like” and wonder why they do not have mile long legs, toned tummies, and voluptuous locks. Suddenly it is no longer about persuading the viewer to purchase the product, but how the rhetoric involved has constituted feelings of either self-doubt or discontent. In the case of the man he may feel dissatisfied that his woman does not in fact look like a Victoria’s Secret model, and that rather than realize that not everyone looks as they so, he begins to believe all women should look like that. In both instances a new standard has been set for women and thus reality has been generated. Ultimately, rhetoric has the authority to not only influence and persuade, but it also has the ability to shape people’s ideas about themselves and the world.
But what are the cultural implications of an exceptionally high standard of beauty for women? The creation of unattainable ideals of physical appearance has manifested themselves into subsequent dissatisfaction, low self-esteem, eating disorders and the objectification of women. According to Vitelli, “With thinness presented as the ideal body shape and a necessary prerequisite for health and happiness, anyone falling short of this ideal is vulnerable to depression, poor self-esteem, and general body dissatisfaction (Vitelli).  The prevalence of thinness has predicated the idea that it is superior, which of course is unrepresentative of all female body types, yet impresses the idea that if someone does not look a certain way they are not beautiful. Phycology Today goes on to affirm this saying, “Research has demonstrated the depression and despair that women often feel over falling short of the media models presented to them… the outcome is low self-esteem, biased perceptions about how much food they should eat, and a tendency towards poor eating habits that can aggravate health problems”(Vitelli). Subsequently, the rhetoric being used to market Victoria’s Secret products creates a real cultural impact in how women see themselves and the choices they make about their bodies, choices that are often harmful. That is not to say Victoria’s Secret is the principle offender, but their ubiquitous use of rail-thin models in advertising reinforces and creates these ideas, which thus become symbolic action. Cultural implications, however, stretch beyond the female psyche and effect how men view and objectify women as well. In the instance of this particular Victoria’s Secret commercial, the bra becomes more than just a functional article of clothing, but a piece of sexual iconography that objectifies women. According to Stephanie Berberek of the University of Buffalo, “men compare the women in their lives to what they see on television screens, in magazines, and on billboards. Both the self and society has suffered because of the objectification, sexism, exploitation and assessment”(Berberek). Berberek goes on to quote fellow researcher Swami explaining, “the existence of patriarchal structures and attitudes should result in significant relationships between sexist attitudes and the endorsement of beauty ideals and practices”(Berberk). It is evident that as men are exposed to these idealistic images of women both their expectations for physical appearance as well as ideas of women as merely sexual objects increase. The results are dastardly for women as both they themselves as well as the opposite gender put more and more emphasis on outward sex appeal. On the part of Victoria’s Secret, it is clearly no accident of marketing that viewers want females to look like the models being shown, but the negative societal consequences continue to impact viewers long after the television has been turned off.
In conclusion, the rhetorical techniques of pathos and ethos employed by Victoria’s Secret are not only successful in persuading the viewer to consume their product, but subsequently in setting unrealistic beauty standards for women that result in negative self-images, disordered eating, personal dissatisfaction, and objectification of women.



Works Cited
Berberick, Stephanie N. "The Objectification of Women in Mass Media." The Online Journal of the New York State Sociological Association 5 (2011): n. pag. May 2011. Web. 21 May 2014. <http://newyorksociologist.org/11/Berberick2011.pdf>.
Palczewski, Catherine Helen., Richard Ice, and John Fritch. Rhetoric in Civic Life. State College, PA: Strata Pub., 2012. Print.
Vitelli, Romeo. "Media Exposure and the "Perfect Body"" Psychology Today. Psychology Today, 18 Nov. 2013. Web. 22 May 2014. <http%3A%2F%2Fwww.psychologytoday.com%2Fblog%2Fmedia-spotlight%2F201311%2Fmedia-exposure-and-the-perfect-body>.